The Power of Empathy
A cute animation illustrating the differences between sympathy and empathy through a sad little fox and an empathetic bear.
I have been having a hard time lately and struggling with feeling like the fox in the video. I talked to my best friend on the phone today because last night I made myself really vulnerable by sharing my feelings with my partner and it didn’t work out the way I had hoped it would and I was pretty down on myself for having spoken up about my needs. my best friend is my rock and is always, always there for me and I love her to the moon and back; she said that how I was feeling about the place I was in reminded her of this animation - she sent it to me and I really like it.
that’s all I really want from my relationships. to feel connections. when I don’t feel that, I can’t help but speak up about it. for better or for worse, I just have to, and if incompatibilities arise because I am expressing my authentic self, I have to learn to accept that as well. in relationships I guess what can happen is you grow together and try to make each other feel as loved and valued and special as you naturally can, or you recognize that you’re not capable of fulfilling each others’ needs and continue on your journeys.
things get tough when love is involved. feelings are so amplified and there is a lot of good stuff to be lost if you decide to choose a different path. but, honesty is so important. I’m grateful to be in a relationship where I feel supported and able to be vulnerable enough to say what I need. I was feeling a bit guilty about it today, so it was wonderful to talk to my best girlfriend about it and to hear her say that in her perspective what I did was a loving act, and I do see it that way now. it is a loving act to admit to a partner that you don’t feel you’re getting what you need, because you’re saying hey, I don’t know exactly why I need this, but I’m realizing that I need this, and that it’s a part of me, and I don’t want to look elsewhere for it, I want to figure out a place for it in the space we’re building together.
this video isn’t about romantic relationships, that’s all me, but check it out because it’s cute, and true too